The Creative Counselor: Friendship Small Group Lesson: Strategies to Solve Conflicts with Friendship Fortune Tellers!

Conflicts are an inevitable part of daily life, even for children. However, it is crucial to help children understand that conflicts can be resolved with ease. In my Friendship Small Group, I focus on equipping children with the necessary tools to solve friendship problems effectively.

Sharing Personal Experiences:

To begin our Friendship Small Group sessions, I encourage children to share their own experiences of having conflicts with friends and SUCCESSFULLY resolving them. By doing so, children reflect on their problem-solving abilities and develop self-awareness that this can be done! This sharing session creates a safe environment where children can also learn from one another.

Exploring Strategies:

In our lessons, I introduce a variety of conflict-resolution strategies to the group. Utilizing a Smart Board, I display these strategies, ensuring the students are familiar with them. While some strategies may be known to the students already, we focus on explaining the "Chance" strategy. This approach emphasizes fairness, ensuring that each person involved has an equal opportunity. To bring this concept to life, I allow the students to play a game of Rock, Paper, Scissors or Bubble Gum, Bubble Gum in a Dish, allowing them to experience firsthand how these Chance solutions can be applied to resolve disagreements in various situations. We then engage in a discussion about the specific scenarios where these strategies can be effectively utilized.

Applying Strategies:

After familiarizing the children with different strategies, I encourage them to apply these approaches to real-life situations. In a group setting, students take turns presenting social scenarios and selecting a problem-solving strategy to address the issue at hand. I emphasize that there is no one "right" way to solve a problem. I also use this opportunity to introduce using "I" messages, which promote assertive and respectful communication.

Creating Problem Solvers:

To make the learning experience more engaging and hands-on, I allow the students to create their own Friendship Problem Solvers. These problem solvers are reminiscent of the ones many adults may remember from their own childhood. I like to pre-cut the Friendship Problem Solvers to save time and ensure clean edges. The children then personalize and decorate their problem solvers, which in turn, fosters a sense of ownership and pride in their creations.

Teaching kids about friendship and conflict resolution is beneficial to all. By equipping them with problem-solving strategies, we empower them to handle their conflicts, build lasting friendships, and a harmonious school community.